When Life Gets in the Way

. . . of your writing/blogging dreams and desires, you can:

  • weep
  • have a meltdown or two (I’m particularly skilled at these)
  • curse and swear (too melodramatic, but for a few seconds, delightfully effectual)
  • blame it on bad energy or luck (and curse it to death).

Or you can:

  • suck it up, take a few dee-eeeeeep breaths, and work at what’s doable.

Life’s been challenging lately.  The stress level has been Shanghai-Tower high.  This isn’t good, so I’m gonna nip it in the bud—now.

Okay, so there’s no mailing list yet.  The truth is, currently there simply aren’t enough cycles (silly company jargon for “time”) to do all that’s required with one, like monitoring, analyzing and responding.  As you know, like many of you, there’s a full-time job and Mom to care for.  But that mailing list will [eventually] happen.

Okay, so the fourth Triple Threat Investigation Agency mystery isn’t completed.  It’s getting there, slowly but surely.  I’m taking those baby steps mentioned in past . . . and those are better than none at all.

Okay, so at the moment there are no ads.  Investment $ aside (I ain’t Trump rich), there’s the measuring/assessing that goes with them.  Then, if you attract followers, you’ve got to take action.  Action = time = not doable [yet].  But one day, ye-es, they will run—fast and furious like a gazelle pursued by lions.  [That’s good ol’ Rey’s melodramatic contribution.]

Okay, so followers are minimal at this time (thanks to the aforementioned).  Right now, it’s difficult to offer more than two weekly blog posts on A Writer’s Grab-Bag and the one on Typepad (and a weekly Wattpad installment for “Odd Woman Out”).  The awesome thing: they are being done.

If you’re in a similar situation, don’t despair.  It’s all good.  It may not seem like it (just ask colleagues about my huff-and-puff moments), but it will transpire.  I truly believe there are no coincidences, just as I avidly believe in—and trust—the Good Lord.  It’s all about faith and conviction.

Believe in yourself.  If you have to deviate from the course you’ve set, don’t beat yourself up (like I too often have, coz let me tell ya, it hurts!).  When Life gets in the way, just say, “Bring it on.  I can handle anything.  I’ll get through this . . . and I’ll grow as a result.”

Approach Life’s trials and tasks like a matador: challenge with passes, stand firm, demonstrate conviction and face your “opponent”, present the muleta . . . .

You’ve got it in you.  You know you do.  It’ll happen, my friends, it’ll happen.

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! Time to Get Motivated !

Let’s find ways of getting motivated—to move beyond fear’s stagnation, battle a lack of confidence, quell a bout of ennui, or whatever it is that’s tethering us in place with super-thick bungee cords.

Where to start?  By un-tethering those cords and determining what needs doing.  What’s the goal or objective?  Mine: to create an extensive mailing list, have a recognizable name and successful blog, to assist fellow writers, and maybe offer editing advice and/or services.  That’s a lot to accomplish with limited time; in fact, that’s a lot to accomplish in any span, period.  The logical thing to do then is focus on one objective at a time.  For me, the mailing list is an excellent one to begin with.  As such, I should learn all I can about what makes a successful one and then apply that knowledge.

Having an objective is one thing; being motivated (enthused, stimulated) to make it happen is equally important.  Viewing the works/products of others (in my case, successful authors) will provide creative ideas.  Seeing their achievements will offer encouragement.

Having a timeframe is a great idea: set one that’s realistic.  As the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day; so don’t decide to accomplish your goal in 24 hours.  You may want to post about it or simply stick a reminder on your fridge: keep the intent [and wished-for outcome] readily in view and accessible.

You may have a few hours, or days, where motivation just ain’t happening.  That’s okay.  It’s like writer’s block: a temporary time-out.  Don’t fret and don’t give up.  It will come.  Keep the faith.

If necessary, find inspiration.  Read inspirational quotes, watch a persuasive thought-provoking video, talk to a friend, join an on-line community (you’d be amazed how many offer valuable support and advice).  Or maybe take a long walk, get some [relatively] fresh air, and un-jumble thoughts.

Stop finding excuses.  <ROTFL>  I have a great [true] one—that lack of time.  But, at the end of the day, it’s exactly that: a X*&!%$ excuse (so here’s a kick in the butt to myself).  If there are only 30 minutes of “personal” time per day, make the most of them: read, learn, absorb, apply!

Sure, some tasks aren’t that pleasurable, but they need to get done.  So focus on the components of the goal that are fun and run with them.  The rest will fall into place.  Once you’ve discovered enough external motivation, realize it internally.  It’s there and it’s in you.  You’ve got what it takes.

Baby steps are something I’ve referred to in Typepad posts—how those teeny-tiny strides may seem like they’re not progressing us too quickly or very far, but the fact of the matter is they are.  Moving slowly is actually a good thing: it allows us time to absorb and assimilate (kinda like Star Trek Borgs, but in a positive way).

These are but a few off-the-cuff ideas to get going.  I could offer more, but this is a post, not a dissertation.  . . . That said (speaking of goals), one day there’ll be a deck or vid on this blog.  In fact, there’ll be a few.  <LOA>  But one baby step at a time, my friends.  One baby step—and goal—at a time.

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Writer’s Block can B a Bitch

For those easily offended, sorry for the “b” word . . . but, man, writer’s [and blogger’s] block can be just that.

Sometimes, it’s because ideas are bumping around in your brain like out-of-control bumper cars.  Other times, it’s because you’re experiencing a dry spell as arid as the Mojave Desert.  In both instances, focus is proving as clear as the Big Muddy.

Other excuses, uh, reasons include:

  • scheduling/timing, anxiety, dog walking, kitty litter changing, shopping, eating, vacuuming (pick one, any one).

There are several ways to defeat writer’s/blogger’s block and they’re painless, even enjoyable.

My fav: take a walk.  (Ideas come when I’m strolling with no destination in mind.)

Similarly, get out of the house/condo/apartment and enter a different space and head place, like a lounge or gym or park.

Do something creative or entertaining: play a game, color/draw, maybe watch a motivating or encouraging flick.  Music’s nice, too (Christian R&B works for me, but if Five Finger Death Punch does it for you, go for it).

Daydream—about the story and characters, your future, an ideal vacation, the upcoming long weekend, or that perfect world.  Engage the ol’ gray matter.

Jot down words, ideas, or character sketches.  Or record what you’re feeling and thinking (do some free-flow writing).

Talk to someone . . . or the dog, cat or parrot.  Chatting aloud, even with yourself, can take you places (and, no, they won’t be taking you away with a butterfly net).

Search for inspiration.  The folks I follow on Twitter tweet amazing sayings and stunning photos.  After viewing a few of those, I’m feelin’ uplifted and very fine.

Hopefully, one of these options will work.  If not, go looking for something that will . . . like I just did (writing about the writer’s/blogger’s block I was experiencing today).

Ending words: don’t give up.  Persevere.  You’ve got it within you.  Stick to it!  And, above all, keep the faith.

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